How To Fix Your Marriage

Do you want to know how to fix your marriageIt takes two to tango so they say, tango together in paying the bills, saving for the future, and tango together in rearing the children. Before you know it, you did tango also in breaking your marriage, because you forgot to tango to save the marriage. Here are some tips on how to save marriages.

how to fix your marriage

Do not put your marriage in the back seat. Make it always one of your top priorities, if not the top most. Your lifestyle may change over the years, your routines, your responsibilities may add up with the children around, but that doesn’t mean that the need for love and affection coming from each other ought to lessen. It will help, if you can put more love and affection into your marriage over the years. This will make the foundation of your marriage stronger and steadier.

Have a big and forgiving heart? Does it really matter who hurt who? Does it really matter who blurted out hurtful words? Does it really matter who shouted first? Does it really matter who is more successful? Does it really matter who earns more? I f you can’t stop pointing fingers at each other and blame each other for all the problems in your house and in your relationship you can never come to a resolution. Instead, ask yourself and each other how you can stop hurting each other, forgive each other, love each other more and make the marriage work. While it is true that it is hard to forgive and forget, it still is worth an effort. Nobody said life is always fair, but us it is worth living. Life is too short to stay angry and bitter. Exert effort and contemplate on how to save your marriage from falling apart. And when you will look back later, you will feel good that you did.

Be generous to your spouse! Be generous with compliments. Never fail to praise your spouse, even for little things he/she does for you or for others. This can do magic. It can bring back lost confidence and self-respect that only you can bring back. Lack of confidence and respect for oneself can undermine the marriage.

Manage your anger. It is always best to cool down a bit first and bite your tongue, if that is the only way to stop yourself from saying sharp words to your spouse. You can never take back words said and they are very painful to take, if they come from the person you vowed to love for the rest of your life. Never make major decisions at the peak of the emotion, because if you do chances are set you self are on the wrong track. Talk when heads are cooler, that way you can be objective and rational. Always keep in mind that you are talking to settle the issues and save the marriage, not to break it, and that you are facing your spouse not your enemy.

Effective communication never fails to save any relationship. An effective communication is a two – way process, it involves two parties; the giver and the receiver. You don’t get to be the giver or the receiver all the time. Each will become the other party at some point of the communication. Be a good listener too. Listen hard and listen well. Listen not only to what your partner is saying, but to what he/she is feeling. Listen to your heart too. Do not let anger and anxiety control it, instead let love to flow. For this is the only way you can save your marriage. These are just a few tips on how to save marriages. There are still a lot more you and your spouse can think of and doing. Be well.

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